I remember growing up in sunny suburbia, when the days seemed endless, the sun was perpetually shining, and my friends and I had nothing better to do than climb trees and swim. I then became older, moving from the outside arena of entertainment towards the inside arena of TV and video games. I then became older still, and I remember when I was first allowed to watch The Terminator and Die Hard. That was possibly the turning point of my world of entertainment. In primary and high school it certainly wasn’t considered OK to watch romantic comedies, so I took my age group’s word for it, and I watched all the action movies I could get my hands on, the entire experience culminating with my viewing of The Matrix. It still holds a spot in my top five favourite films ever….But I’m rambling, and badly. Sorry about that.
The point of this post is to discuss the social stereotype of guys not watching chick flicks, and if they do it’s only because their girlfriends make them. Which I personally find utter nonsense. The idea of falling in love, finding the right person for oneself, and happy endings are still relevant topics for guys, except it’s become socially unacceptable to say this because it’s deemed unmanly. I used to care about whether or not people thought I was a manly man, but that was back when I wasn’t particularly manly. Now that I’ve been at university for a while, I’ve gained a lot in life experience, and I like to think I’ve manned up a bit. This reminds me of the C.S. Lewis quote about childishness:
“When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty, I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.”
― C.S. Lewis
And so I feel I am able to say I like chick flicks (well ones with happy endings anyway). I write this having just watched The Lucky One, the one about the marine who finds a picture of a lady and tries to find her after he gets back from Iraq. I’ll even admit I quite enjoyed, but it’s not amazing. Not when compared to Nottinghill, Love Actually, or Crazy, Stupid Love anyway.
So in conclusion, I think guys should come out and admit they like romantic comedies, just like they should admit that they absolutely animated movies (I do anyway), Disney classics included. It’s more manly to be open about it, and you’ll feel better being able to watch the movies you secretly enjoyed anyway.